Seriously ladies we just gotta stop and be more practical. Stop thinking we are little Ms. Homemaker. Stop thinking our kids can be this perfect idea or can be in several activities and not freak out. Stop thinking we can do every craft, every decorating idea, every homemade meal. We just gotta stop with the outrageous expectations. How? That’s the real question….
Maybe your question is different. Maybe your question is why?
Why can’t I keep my house spic and span? Why can’t I take my kids to the park every week, read non-twaddle books every time, always be ready for bedtime cuddles and singing lullabies? I’m not saying you can’t. You can… if you can.
Nothing is wrong with doing these things but we do have to think in practical terms too.
I remember watching a Youtube video with a mom doing bedtime with her kids. It was a lovely video as she came home from Sunday night church and put all (four, I believe) of her kids to bed. Brushing teeth, singing, cuddling with each — separately. It had to have taken more than an hour as she took her time reading several books and just laying with each. I was so surprised by this I had to ask, do you really do this every night?
Her reality, her response was yes, most nights. Some nights not as long as others, and sometimes she did fall asleep during time with one of them and didn’t get to the others. But I realized, that’s great if she can do that. That doesn’t mean I have to or that I even can! We have to do what is practical for each of us and stop trying to be someone else — even if that someone is just the idea you held in your mind. That ideal of a mother we all strive to be. Just drop it!
We can’t be “her” whoever that is. We can do our best but some days, many days, we aren’t going to be “her”. Our kids just won’t let that happen lol. We won’t let that happen. Money won’t let that happen. Time limitations, resources, know-how just won’t let that happen!
Eating what fits in your budget and your time. If it’s homemade nice, but if it’s lunchables, so be it.
Making up beds as much as you remember. Out the door to school, doctor appointments, just not that morning? It’s ok.
Spending time with your kids as much as you can. Work outside the home? Super busy day (or week) they will understand.
Being practical is in so many ways better than trying to be perfect.