Staying home most of the time means a lot less contact with the outside world.
Your world in many ways becomes whining, crying, needy tiny humans that follow you around but cannot be found when you call them. You feel alone in this bizarre world.
You are not alone, most sahm’s feel this way at some point. While that, in itself, isn’t enough to console you through the isolated stress you endure daily, I do have some good news that will help. It may seem like only bits of hope but remember bits add up to chunks and chunks make up the whole.
When my first baby was born I soon realized I wasn’t an independent white-collar worker anymore. Then I became lonely, and bored of the monotony of baby, housecleaning, baby, cooking and, of course, Facebook. So I went searching online for “Happy things about staying at home”. I am so thankful for what I found. You’d be surprised to know that at the time I considered what I found bits, but those bits kept me progressing instead of depressing.
There are blessings as a sahm even if you have a colicky or sickly child. Even if you have no vehicle and have to walk or ride the bus or…stay home. Even if you have literally no one helping you besides perhaps your husband. There is something to give hope to the next day. There is something for which to be thankful. There is something to uplift your day.
Here are 10 things that you can be happy about as since you stay at home:
1. Being home to see all the “firsts” that my husband misses and grandma always asks about. Isn’t it great to see your baby’s first step, hear that first word or the first time baby can build blocks alone?
2. Driving during the day means less traffic and shorter lines. That says it all.
3. I don’t have to worry about driving in the winter weather as much. It seems, at least in my locale, that the worse of the winter storms come early or late, not mid-day. It’s really interesting watching the news forecasters while seeing my husband have to go out in it or come home in it. While being a SAHM I can simply choose to go mid-day or go another day.
4. I can teach my children about God and the values I keep, without much interruption from the outside world. This one is HUGE! You virtually have full influence upon your child from the womb. You can pretty much control how much or if they watch tv (or you can just do videos. For a long time we didn’t watch tv at all. I hand-picked their videos and they didn’t even know what commercials were). You can pick the books, the type of books no twaddle link, their schedule and even their friends (by choosing the playdates). If they were in daycare or preschool they would become friends with those around them. Of course the older they become the less influence you have regardless of if you continue to stay home and even if you homeschool them. But if you start early you can instill good values that stay with them.
5. I can take my kids to the park, library or the pool anytime we feel like it. This is an advantage if you either can walk to those places or have a vehicle at your disposal. There was a time we lived in an apartment and my dear husband had the car. So, no, this wasn’t an advantage for me at that time. Now, however, this is a blessing. We try to take advantage of the park and library quite frequently.
6. I am able to take the time to prepare meals. Now this may not seem like something to be desired but for many it is. My first born had several allergies (among other things) and to think of what may have happened if he was in a daycare sitting is scary. Not only that but my dear husband had food intolerances and ADHD. It was a good thing I could stay home and cook foods from scratch and do other things like make yogurt or Kombucha for the good probiotics. By the way, eating like this for a few years has led to my dear husband’s better mental state, a lot less forgetfulness and my son now only has one food allergy.
7. Being there for them when they get sick or when they get sick at school and have to be picked up. Super convenient and less stressful when you know your child is sick, plus figuring out who can be with them until you can.
8. Being able to make lunch for them, take them out to lunch (as a special treat) or take them lunch when they are in school. #joyofmotherhood right? This is the fun part.
9. Not worrying about who will take care of them (babysitters/daycare workers and what they might say or do around or TO my kids). Not that you never get a babysitter sometimes but you do have more control over the situation.
10. My kids don’t have to worry about coming home to an empty house, or if something happens that no one is there (immediately) for them. That should comfort you that you are bringing stability and fullness into your child’s life that cannot be replaced.
I know you must have found at least one thing in all of that to say, ah, yes that is SOMETHING. Remember bits to chunks to the whole. I dare you to go out and find more. Ask others, search online like I did, just sit down (at naptime) and think with a piece of paper. I’m sure you’ll find even more. When you do, share below, this will bless others who come to this page for the same reason you did.