I’m Not Prepared! Get Prepared.

I'm Not Prepared for this

I was not prepared.

I know moms read my blog and so you can guess why I have been absent.  But it’s more than just daily life.  It’s been a whirlwind of learning lessons and for me the lessons go deep.  The lessons are primarily because I’m not prepared for what I go through day in and day out.  Let me explain…

Have you ever gone through a period where it just seems like the Lord is silent?

I mean quiet quiet.

I mean…..

….

Well if you can imagine that, you certainly can imagine the direct, 180 degree, opposite.
That’s been my life pretty much since summer and it just all culminated later in the Fall and I realized I needed to stop and put things in place.  I have had a period, in the past, of feeling God’s silence.  Eventually I realized that I needed to just keep steady and keep seeking Him.  I know that was a test in a sense.  This also has been, greatly.  Fortunately, this time God was constantly sending me messages through friend support, facebook (of all places), sermons, podcasts, books, blogs and even random people on the street!  Strange huh?  But I praise God for all of His communication with me.  I needed the encouragement.

So I know you are anxious to know what its all about.  Well there are several strands (nothings clean-cut in real life, is it?).  What I will tell you is that I needed to get a hold on the chaos in my life; many things were due to NOT being prepared.

I know, everyone says that (my authoritative voice)

‘no one can truly be prepared’ – for life, marriage, children, career challenges.

That’s “them”, me on the other hand I really see there is a certain level of preparation that can happen and just didn’t in my own life.  I didn’t even know how to change a diaper, let alone how to cook for a family, what kind of cookware to have (and trust me we started with a pot and a pan, that’s it), there was just so much.  I think those who talk about no one being prepared are people who had the basics and forget that there are those who start without even the basics.  Get into your mind a near homeless orphan, then you may be able to sympathize.  This is where I’m coming from when I talk about motherhood.  This is where I’m coming from when I talk, get prepared.

As we go into 2018 I really want to put into your minds, preparation.  That’s our whole job!  We may not feel prepared for what we are doing but our job is to do the preparation for pretty much everything that makes life.  Preparation for meals, for summer activities, putting in place the building blocks for family communication, our kid’s friendships, purchasing, money goals – so much we do as moms to prep for the hourly, daily, life future of those in our care.  Yes, our husbands too depend on our own preparation!

Our biggest and best task:

Preparation of our children for the lives they will live. 

BIG.

We can’t do it all and certainly not perfectly but it should be humbly.  We should attempt to prep those littles for the challenges they may encounter, even more so, trying to enable them to bypass those challenges. Be careful though, there will be challenges.  Just not always the same that we think they will face or the same as the ones we do face.  If you are like me and you were not prepared, the hope is that they will not (will not) face the challenge of trying to learn how to manage life and parenthood while doing life and parenthood.   Who said on-the-job training was a good idea?

Don’t feel hopeless.

This is a big obstacle but I believe strongly that with the Lord’s guidance and door-opening power, getting in front of the boulder and even running faster than it is possible.  We can take up with wings like eagles … we can run and not be weary.  Read Isaiah 40:31 and pray.  If this is you too, let’s pray together for God’s direction and help.  Where do we start?  I don’t want you to feel overwhelmed because it’s so easy to when you realize you gotta get a hold, but where?  How?  The daily is crushing you but, girl, YOU can crush IT!

I’m going to help you, Lord-willing.

I’m going to be writing a few starter posts so keep reading.  Pray and let me know you are.  I will walk you through and cheer you on, but you have to let me know.  Comment below and feel free to contact me on Facebook.

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Stepping on LEGOs, knocks on the door at night when you begin to drift off, another meal, another load of laundry, another bandaid to put on.  Joyful?  There is so much frustration, crying and whining from both parents and children that everyone begins to wonder if there is any truth to the words, motherhood is a gift or children are a blessing.

Really?

Can you tell me that again when my child is screaming at me in the grocery store or in front of the grandparents?

 

It’s not always that the child is hateful or wicked (I can almost hear some old nanny saying that to a young child during the regancy era that several period dramas are set in, but I digress).  The child is truly only acting out the same emotions, fears and willfulness that we, adults, have come to rein in.

 

Training, molding, equipping, and loving the child into adulthood is a big part of mothering.

It is wonderful and wonderfully painful, and, believe it or not, this is the joyful part.  See we get the idea of what is joyful completely confused with what is pleasant, happy or satisfying.  Yes, that is joy, but we think it is a thrilling emotion, like the moment your boyfriend asks you to marry him.

 

Joy is not a moment, joy is an ongoing settled state.   It is a decided state of gladness, appreciation and spirit.  You see all the immaturity and flaws in yourself and your child but do not allow those to impede your journey.

On the contrary, you use those rocks as grips to climb up higher.  You learn from your motherhood mistakes, you learn to be more flexible and patient and allow all the chaos to be like a tornado, where you can find calm in the eye of the storm.  That calm spot, where you decide to make the most out of it all, THAT is joy.

 

But keeping the joy…

At first it seems not too hard, then the bumps come and then maybe even a give up attitude sets up in you.
What then?
Where do you go?
Who will help you turn that frown upside-down?

 

This can be a long process, but you have to start somewhere.  You have to entrust your heart and feelings with someone.

 Someone who will listen and comfort.

To give you direction.

Someone who will not allow the LEGOs and laundry steal your joy.

 

That someone, the only one, who can give you hope is God.  The Sovereign Originator of your life and your child’s life.

 

Having a joyful motherhood is about trusting God just like your child trusts you.  Even if it seems like your child doesn’t trust you, he does, silently.  He trusts you to have food at mealtimes, to come when he calls for you, to comfort him when he is hurting.  Sometimes we need to just step back and not just DO things for your children but spend time WITH our children.  I’ve found that if I take time to do things with my children there is a relief.  The child is more pleasant, I’m more relaxed, I can better cement myself in my decided joyful attitude.

 

Through your child’s play, you can play too.  You can let go.  Even for moments at a time and breathe life.

You can be fun!  You can bond with a human being so much like you, they once lived in you.  Just watching your child play happily brings a sense of peace.  They, trusting you.  You, trusting Him.  He being in complete control.

 

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